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What I've Learned from Living Alone


     While all my friends traveled back home to their families or to new place with a car full of friends, I spent spring break alone. I packed up ten days’ worth of stuff and moved to a town I had never been. I moved to house-sit for a family I have no memory of ever meeting--though they know my father. They were gone almost all week. I went grocery shopping, bought smartly, planned a menu, cooked great and healthy meals. I went to church, met new people, and walked around downtown. While there, I conducted nine interviews with strangers for a class project. That was extremely awkward, but a great learning experience. Monday morning, I started my job at the Creation Museum, an hour commute each way. At the end of every day, I came home, cooked dinner, cleaned a little, did some laundry, watched TV, and went to be early. Life simple being alone.

     I learned that I'm good at living by myself. Being independent comes easily to me. I have no fear of caring for my needs. I can cook, clean, organize, run errands, work. Life doesn't scare me. I'm well equipped to do living.

     But, I also learned that I don't want to come home to an empty house every night. I want to cook and clean for more than just me. I want to share dinner, clean for, serve people. Somehow, living for me isn't fulfilling. On my own, life was simple, easy, straightforward. Throughout the week, I found myself wishing that life wasn't simple anymore. I didn't want to have to turn on music and the TV just to fill empty air. It doesn't take much to make me happy--I wanted to make other people happy too.

     I've been hearing a lot this semester that the home can be the priority base of ministry for women--including single women who don't have families of their own. I didn't understand what that meant until this week. In fact, I didn't even know what it was like to live independently in a home. Throughout the super quiet and still week, I had time to think about some of the possibilities of my future. Even if God does not bless me with a husband and kids, then I still want to use my home to serve other people. I want my home to be used to help people, give them a place to stay, aide them to grow. I want to create a welcoming home, where I cook and clean to serve others. What better place to display God's grace than in my own home?

     I don't have a home now. I'm not actually independent, not yet. However, I can still serve in my "home," in my dorm. To be honest, I don't know what that looks like yet, but I am excited to see how God teaches me more. When I went off to college, I knew I was starting a new adventure, and God is continually showing me that there are more and more pieces to that adventure, more and more things for me to learn.

    ~ Alyson


  1. Oh my goodness, Alyson! You're working at the Creation Museum? That is so incredibly cool! What do you do there? I know tons and tons of the people who work there. I generally visit a couple weeks each year and stay with my adopted parents, Buddy and Kay Davis (they stay in an RV near the Decklane house when they're not on the road or at their cabin). I'm excited that you're working there now. Really, this is so cool! :)

    I know you're probably way busy, but I'd be delighted to hear more about your time if you get the chance. Of course you don't have to, but you could email me at Have fun with your new job!

  2. I can't imagine living alone, I'm just used to people.


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